How to deal with someone you were not officially dating

02 Feb

I can say I've had about 3 romantic relationships, but I don't know if I should really call it going out or actual boyfriends.There's one guy who I asked out on a dare and he said yes so we "went out" for maybe 3 minutes before having a tragic breakup.They're subjective, and provide information to help you deal the emotion directly...along the lines of "If you don't like so-and-so, hang out with other people." On the other hand, sometimes, another person (the noun) can seem to trigger an almost visceral personal reaction - almost a repulsion - that goes beyond rational explanation and feels bigger or deeper than pure subjective opinion.Hey Jono, you wise helpful human, maybe you could spare some time to help me out.I'm not going to ask you about my specific and many dramatic boy problems, I'd just like to clarify something.So we spoke to relationship experts about why these breakups can be so haunting—and got tips on how to heal.Nothing salts a wound like watching an ex vacation with his new girlfriend through the flattering filter of Instagram or reading Facebook posts from the friend who won’t return your texts. Irene Levine, a psychiatry professor at NYU Langone School of Medicine.

But the new version of that snub is something of a phenomenon called “ghosting”—it's heavily-fueled by technology and is when someone abruptly cuts off the relationship or simply stops responding to you. Ok, so you know ghosting them would be super uncool, but it's not like you were officially dating or anything, so you don't want to make a big deal out of ending things either. You don't have any romantic feelings toward them anymore, so how do you shut the situation down and move on?Chances are good that if you didn't feel a spark, neither did the other person. Fading out on someone by not responding to their texts and dodging them in the halls might seem like the simplest way out of a relationship, but having it done to you seriously sucks.Plus, if you ghost someone and then run into them at CVS or randomly bump into them in the hall, it'll be painfully awkward for both of you. If they invite you to a party, you can say, "Thanks, but I'm going with my friends.