Divorced parents with children and dating

11 Nov

One of the most common questions divorced parents ask me is: When should I introduce my new partner to my children?

My best answer is to take your time dating after divorce and don’t introduce your new love to your kids if you are dating casually.

Don’t assume that kids will understand the need for a “crazy phase” of dating.

They are dealing with their own issues of loss, betrayal, adjustment, trust- just to name a few.

Parents need to make sure before things get tricky that children understand their continued importance to them, the freedom for the child(ren) to continue a close loving relationship with the ex-spouse (despite any personal misgivings) and the possibility of new people in the parent’s life.

With the US divorce rate still lingering around 50% for first marriages, many children have experienced their parents’ divorce by the time they are eighteen.

And most adults are out and dating again within a year after their divorce, sometimes dating several partners before remarriage.