Dating tips for older couples

04 Oct

A little while ago, I offered unsolicited advice for men over 50 about dating. -- Stop worrying about how your body looks at your age. And those chunky men you're with have no room to complain. Women's faces are THE most miraculous creations on earth. There's truth to the maxim that older faces reflect character and wisdom. I had pointed out previously to men that some of things they say on dates aren't particularly wise. Just as I advised men to stop talking and LISTEN, it's beneficial when it goes in both directions.

This came mostly from what women had told me about their dates. And while I'm confident men over 50 are generally worse at dating than women of that age, I'm equally sure that both genders can learn as they navigate new relationship terrain. Mature women take much better care of themselves, as a rule, than mature men. Regardless, women's bodies -- whatever the age -- are the second most miraculous creations on the planet. If a guy criticizes your body, point him toward a mirror and move on. I've never understood the myths fostered by the makeup industry, but if you want to wear it, okay. When women say they don't want to settle, it never comes across sounding good. I have had dates where for two hours, I was not asked a single question or had an opportunity to talk for more than a moment or two. They left not knowing if I had children (I do) or parents! This goes for both genders, but women over 50 seem to want to size guys up right away in terms of their long term relationship potential.

You are ready to put aside the negative messages aimed at seniors and date again. Or the playful, unpredictable type who knew how to have a good time?

What you need now are time-tested tips on successful senior dating. It’s true that many dating rules have changed, but this much never will: laughter, spontaneity, and a healthy appetite for fun are still highly attractive. Teenagers rarely dwell on their past—because they don’t have one!

Deep down, you know it’s not too late—never too late—to find love.

This is the “timeless you,” who experiences a tingle of excitement at the thought of new romantic possibilities. Chances are, you’re reading this because the inner teenager has won out.

Though many of them had positive observations, a lot of what they had to say dealt with their male companions being self-centered, boring, arrogant, duplicitous, needy and/or unwilling to commit (sometimes, impossible as it sounds, at the same time). Just know that you look great to many of us older guys with it or without it. You Probably Want to "Have It All" and Are Not Willing to "Settle". (I did.) After decades of living, we all have a lot to convey, but it makes for a better date if listening is a mutual activity. You don't want to waste your time, I understand that. Money is probably not a great date topic even if it's really, really important to you! But it also isn't 1870, and if there is mutual attraction, at this stage of our lives, waiting a long time -- whatever that may be -- seems equally foolish.

But if you've already made the determination that he's worth a date, see where it goes for a bit before passing judgment. I got this text before a date (which I then declined to go on): "If you don't have a substantial retirement in place or big income, we will not be a match." Other dates have said they are only interested in rich men. And one actually put forth the idea I should write her monthly checks. Just as men shouldn't talk about or expect sex too soon, women should appreciate that most of us -- male and female -- aren't on these dating sites solely for someone to hike with or take to the opera (some are, but not most.) When sex comes up, a frequent comment from women, is, "This isn't 1970. Yes, there are often wide differences between men and women in the emotional attachment created by sex.

Photos increase men's response rate 40 percent — for women, photos triple it! Beyond saying, "You're really cute and you live near me," you can add that like the woman you're contacting, you also play tennis and enjoy jazz. our first public appearance was in a blog article we published on the Tapestry Blog about dating for seniors titled “9 Things You Didn’t Know About Dating for 55 ”.The article shared some of the interesting lessons we had learned about dating for seniors from a closed trial we had been running in Northern California, and asked people to let us know if they wanted to be involved in a more expanded trial.It is commonplace to wear those experiences on your sleeve and to let them dominate conversation when dating again.Here’s the hot senior single dating tip: Don’t do it!