Dating people chronic illness

17 Nov

One online entrepreneur believes he has the answer to Valentine’s Day loneliness for people living with chronic diseases: match them up with someone with the same condition. On the surface, seeking out a fellow sufferer makes sense.But how much enduring love can a shared health condition really provide? But a romance can be tough to keep going even for the fittest lovers.Crohn’s is an inflammatory bowel disorder often diagnosed in young people.It can lead to frequent abdominal pain and diarrhea and, in severe cases, necessitate removal of part of the colon or small intestine and the wearing of a colostomy or ileostomy bag.No one likes being rejected when they’re dating, but when you have a chronic illness you might take that rejection extremely hard.Getty Images Lana, a 38 year-old publicist in Los Angeles, was diagnosed with genital herpes in 1997.One of the major challenges of dating when you have a chronic illness is self-esteem.

They even help you with things you don’t ask for, and for a while everything is much easier."On bigger dating sites the competition is tremendous," says Jim Houran, Ph D, a clinical psychologist and columnist for Online Dating Magazine."And lets face it, depending on what [the illness] is, it could very well make you uncompetitive in the larger dating pool." Fortunately, there are a number of alternatives.They rarely ask you how you are feeling, avoid topics of doctor’s appointments, and generally clam up when the topic turns to anything health related.In my experience, these people do actually care if you are okay, but really don’t know how to go about talking about it.