Dating more than one

03 Feb

It's a hookup culture we live in and it seems ever more likely that people are looking for more casual types of relationships.Unfortunately, this leads to some serious headaches when one person within these pseudo relationships catches feelings. How do you decide when or who to choose between two people, and how do you avoid a potential disaster?The next day, I found out that Nicole thought I was cute, and I was faced with a quandary...because Nicole was cute too.To make matters worse, they were complete opposites: Pam was younger, just starting off in the work force, and Nicole was a bit older and she was a lawyer.There seems to be an ever-increasing proclivity for Gen-Yers to date more than one person at a time.In principle for the age group I'm talking about, part of me understands the inclination for such an arrangement.Grandma's concern was about weighting your options instead of driving yourself nuts and obsessing over just one man. "If you are looking for a serious relationship, then you should absolutely be dating more than one man at once...

If I do, it might work out better, but I could lose them both if they don't like the arrangement or if they find out if I tried to keep it from them.

I know that if I was only dating one girl, for say a month or so, I would become a little bit needy.

I’d be investing all my expectations in this one girl, rather than having many girls in my life that I could end up being in a possible relationship with.

So all of my guy friends and even most of my girl friends were telling me to hang out with both women.

Essentially they advised me to "see other people."I've never been comfortable with the idea of "seeing other people."Here are pros and cons of seeing other people: Incomplete projects strewn around is a hallmark of the ADD-afflicted person's life. Considering I have trouble following through with one girl,how much trouble will I have following through and managing two different relationships?