Dating and loving

08 Feb

—Our marriage is still wonderful even after all the ups and downs; and here is why.I make his evenings a much-awaited affair, making him glad to come home and he, in turn, gives me reasons for not letting him leave every morning.Don’t take your partner for granted just because they are all yours now. Be it the bed tea that you get or the surprising candle-light setting, don’t forget to tell your partner how blessed you feel to have them in your life.Most married people complain that the things their partners loved in them before suddenly turn into an irritating habit once they tie the knot. Don’t get fired up at their flaws, keep a check on your temper to maintain healthy and long-term relation.How fierce would the backlash be if men started telling other men what to do?Oh, that's right, we have a word for that: War.

I mean, I knew the language (everything is problematic because of our suffocating, heteronormative patriarchy) and I was pretty clear on the third-wave message (don't be a tool), but I was ignorant on many gender-defined issues.

Here are the biggest lessons she's schooled me on.

Boys are taught that they have to be strong; that they can't cry; that they have to tough it out and hide pain.

Most couples after marriage tend to take their partners for granted and ignore the small gestures that made them fall in love at the first place.

Notice the little things to keep the fire burning between the two of you.