Biblical dating standards

15 Sep

All of these topics will, Lord willing, be covered in future columns.

It's simply impossible for me to address all of the fantastic individual questions and comments we've received, but know that we will do our very best to incorporate as many as possible into the columns themselves and the blog discussions that follow. Quite a few of you asked questions or made comments about my statement in Biblical Dating, an Introduction that "Biblical dating assumes NO physical intimacy" outside of marriage.

There are plenty of them, but let's focus on what I believe are the top five myths that make dating harder for Christian men.

Myth #1: "God has one woman picked out for you to marry.

To say or believe that another person is “everything” or the most important thing in one’s life is idolatry, which is sin (Galatians ; Colossians 3:5).

If you feel convicted of certain behaviors, stop doing them.

You are destined to be with her, and God will guide you to her." Good luck finding this one in the Bible.

There is plenty of stuff about God's will for his people, God wanting good things for you, and God's ultimate plan.

If you are dating someone who doesn’t have a personal relationship with Christ, you are playing with fire. Don’t let the relationship progress to a physical point and then hope you can cut it off later. You need all the help you can get in today’s world. Do you depend on Him to meet your needs of love and security?

If you can’t stand the person but have a great physical relationship, rethink the relationship. If one person is uncomfortable with any type of physical expression, don’t do it. Don’t push a date to do anything that makes him/her feel uncomfortable.