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Read through all the comments below to discover what it is and who is doing it. Dee I think that's why it so controversial, even among the Amish, Carol. Lizzy It is still practiced among the Swartentruber Amish, at least it was when I left 4 yrs. Naomi I heard from a former Amish, that it still goes on, that is why they left so that their children wouldn't get pregnant and then have to get married, then have to join the church and then make the VOW and then the religion has them. Naomi, did you know if the former Amish was Swartzentruber or Old Order? ( : Naomi Old Order Minerva Dee my family is old order, and yes it is still the way of dating in the community "Danville, Ohio" Le Roy Ya, it is basically a rule in the Swartzentruber church where we grew up and if anybody didn't do it because of conviction they were considered strange! A classmate did a report on it in our English class in college. I heard the Amish in Lancaster PA no longer bed court. Le Roy, I wondered if it is still going on around here. Lynn, the Amish bed court without a board--just teens in a bed together--often on the first "date"--in fact, that IS the date. It seems that a porch swing might have been better.

By the time a young woman turns twenty or a young man is in his early twenties, he or she is probably looking forward to the wedding day.

But several definite steps must be taken by a couple before they may marry. They are baptized into the Amish faith and are responsible for following the Ordnung.

Bundling, or tarrying, is the traditional practice of wrapping one person in a bed accompanied by another, usually as a part of courting behavior.

The tradition is thought to have originated either in the Netherlands or in the British Isles and later became common in colonial United States, It is possible the precedent for bundling came from the biblical story of Ruth and Boaz, in which Ruth, a young widow, and Boaz, an older wealthy landowner, spend a night together in a grain storage room while not touching; the pair later get married.

Family is the core element in the Amish church, and choosing a mate is the most important decision in an Amishman’s life.

Some said it didn't exist anymore and some said it was still being used.Some of the comments are surprising, but they do answer the main question: Does bed courtship still exist among the Amish? I've heard the parents don't really like it, but they look the other way, because they really want their children to stay Amish. It is one of the many acts of deceit they think is ok because the higher up Amish do something different! Dee I'm still trying to figure out why parents don't stop it.Dee Quick question: Have you ever heard of bed courtship? It's a controversial subject among Amish and former Amish. Some Amish disagree with it, some disagree in word only. (But this kind has no board down the middle like the bundling of old.) Rebecca I never heard of it, so I decided to look it up. The bundling of early America used a board...somehow, the Amish lost that part of the tradition. It seems to go against all that the Amish would consider moral. I think Le Roy is right: tradition wins out over common sense and moral standards. Naomi Dee, the reason the parents don't do anything about it is, they are losing their children to the world, so if they get pregnant then they have them because they make them get married. I heard of a case where a girl got pregnant on her first date ever and had to get married.One cold January day in 2006, at in the afternoon, Emma took off her bonnet and walked out the door of her family’s small farmhouse. Now living in a suburb of Dallas, Emma blends in well. A lightly edited transcript of our conversation follows. I didn't know how to use it but I figured it out when the time came. I was in shock for days after I found that on the Internet.She left a note for her parents: The life she found could not be more different. Accustomed to making supper for her family of 16, she learned to cook for one. She wears brightly colored blouses and a full face of makeup. Olga Khazan: What technology were you already using when you left? Another person that had been Amish and had left gave me the cellphone. Khazan: How did you figure out how to use it when the time came? Gingerich: I was worried that I wouldn’t be able to hear anybody because I had never talked to somebody on the phone. That encouraged me to look more and more and more, to see if there was more stuff out there about my family that I don’t know about. Gingerich: He was accused of sleeping with his daughters.